A young man and woman meet. She appreciates his sharp features. He enjoys her engagement and conversion. Over a few months, they grow closer. And about a year later, they decide to get married. The lead-up to the day is both frantic and beautiful. The day is filled with words of love and commitment. The immediate days that follow include enjoyment, discovery, and deepening connection.
As the days turn into years, the relationship evolves. Jobs and houses bring new levels of responsibilities and stress. When children are added to the picture, the joy covers the strain for a time. But the stress fractures are beginning to form. The connection and fun are no longer easy to come by. And the once-happy couple is stuck in the doldrums of middle age. The conversations are silenced until they live as if the relationship is dissolved. And now, where once there were friends and partners, there are only enemies. A few years later, they take the legal step of pronouncing the death of their marriage that had happened years before.
What happened? Did they fall out of love? What happened to the spark?
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Ephesians 5, Paul applies the gospel to our relationships. He wants us to see the intersection between Christ’s work and our lives. You might think Christ’s actions in his life, death, and resurrection are theological concepts. But he won’t let us leave them in dusty theology books.
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
- Ephesians 5:25 (ESV)