I’ve recently seen some news headlines about states debating bills or even passing laws regarding parental custody in cases where the child wants or has received “gender affirming care.” Some fear that in a state like Minnesota, a parent might lose custody for preventing their child from receiving hormones or surgeries. Others fear that in a state like Florida, a parent might lose custody for allowing their child to receive such hormones and surgeries.
Division isn’t new in this country, but this situation struck me as a poignant example of the competing visions of the family and the parent-child relationship that are promulgated in our world. This isn’t new, though. The ancient Mediterranean area that Paul and the Ephesian saints inhabited was culturally and religiously diverse, meaning that they, too, faced competing understandings of the family and how parents should raise their children.
Since God had graciously called the Ephesians saints out from among “the sons of disobedience,” it was fitting that the apostle Paul taught them a new way to live in Christ. And what Paul taught challenged the often-abusive paternal authority of the cultures in the ancient Mediterranean, even as it challenges the often-rebellious individualism of our day.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- Ephesians 6:4 (ESV)